Daily Questions

Q: Why lord chooses this route for progressive manifestation which is sometimes not very pleasant for humans.. he is omnipotent and all-powerful, he should have just created the desired manifestation, No??

ALOK DA: Yes He can and indeed He does. All the typal planes of gods etc. are created directly by Him. But there is no evolution in these worlds. So the beings of these worlds are static. They are gods but cannot go beyond.

But man is part of the evolutionary world and therefore he can go beyond the gods and become one with God not only in his soul and inner consciousness but also in the very substance of his bodily existence. This is necessarily a long and laborious process and needs full collaboration of man as evolution implies challenges. It is not readymade so to say. The omnipotence and omniscience of God is therefore veiled as a tree dwells veiled in a seed. Slowly it would emerge through the challenges.

The unique thing would be that once fully emerged man will share the practical omniscience and omnipotence of God which even the gods do not. Besides based upon matter there will be concrete bodies for the otherwise formless Omniscience and Omnipotence. These bodies will also multiply the delight of oneness and become delight of the many though a unity in diversity. All this God cannot manifest fully if He remains in His original formless state.

Of course there are souls that find the game tiring and tedious. It is for them that He has opened the gates of Nirvana to escape and retire.

But there are others who love the challenges and the joy of service and the danger and delight of participating in the Divine Manifestation upon earth. For them now the doors of transformation have been opened.

Q: I have heard many times that we can make Maa our friend. For one day I tried that and the following question popped in my mind – how to avoid feeding the ego or expecting that I will be free from difficulties or any such worldly selfish attitude? Then what should be my attitude?

ALOK DA: Friendship with the Divine is indeed the rarest gift that can be granted to us. When we aspire steadily for such a friendship then surely one day it is given to us and then life begins to change beautifully. You are already blessed to have this feeling within you. It is a sign that She is already your friend. all that is needed is for you to build the bond from your side, since friendship, unlike love, is always a two-way process.

You have asked what does it mean to make Maa as your friend. Well at the very outset a friend is someone with whom we share everything without fear of being judged or condemned. We know that a friend will always understand us and be there to help us whenever we need it. It is the same thing with the divine Mother. To ask for Her friendship means that we start sharing everything with Her from what we think to be the most trivial to what we imagine as something that is of great importance. I have said seeming because the divine values and looks things very differently. Yet He acts taking into account our values. So instead of sharing things, what gives us happiness and what gives us pain with Maa we begin to notice that a divine Hand begins to silently arrange our circumstances of life in a way that only a friend who knows what is best for us can do. A friend does not only give us advice also does what needs to be done for us if it is within his limits and capacities to do it. The divine Friend may give us advice if we want it. But even more importantly He starts doing things for us to ensure that our life ahead is made smooth as far as possible in the present conditions and through the circumstances that we choose to be in.

The first thing, however, is to make Her a confidante of your life and open and lay before Her all your thoughts and feelings and will and actions without any hesitation. What we instead do is to either keep everything inside us or else turn towards human beings to share them. Nothing wrong with that but the problem is that human beings even at their best are limited. they are limited in knowledge, limited in power, limited in love. It is best, therefore, to turn towards the Divine who is the Source of everything. then what one receives from Him can be shared with others or with someone we may feel love for. What I mean by saying this is that friendship with the Divine does not exclude other relationships in our life. It is just that we do not depend upon them but on Her for everything. On the other hand, when we have friendship with the Divine we receive so much more all the time that it improves our relationship with the world around.

The second thing is that we should develop a bond whereby She is the first (and preferably the last) person we call whenever in difficulty just as we call a friend in need or in distress. She becomes our ICE (In Case of Emergency) number and once we have called Her we know that she will do what needs to be done through whatever human or other instrumentation. But when the thing is done do not forget to express gratitude. People often thank the human being because they are not yet able to perceive that it is She who impels everything. Therefore all must be offered back to Her with gratitude and love. Not that the Divine needs it but a bond of friendship has to be built from both sides. It is not a one-way process of only taking from your friend. What does the Divine want from us? People often think that by giving Him a little bit of money, often extra from what they need, they are forging a bond. Well, money is needed for His Work but for Himself He needs our love and trust. This is developed by thinking of Her as often as you can. This constant Remembrance of the Divine, this feeling of an insatiable need of Her, this thirst for Her Love, this utter self-giving and abandon of what we have and are and do to in a gesture of service to Her is what seals the bond between the Divine and man. After all, we would also want to do something for our friend, isn’t it? What can we do for the Divine who Himself is the doer? Well, we can choose to offer ourselves in His hands to become Her faithful instruments and channels. This is how the two=way relationship develops.

Finally, we should take out some special time to sit with Her, to speak with Her, to be with Her just as we wish to be with our a friend. This begins as we get less and less enamoured of humanity and begin to seek Her. Share everything with Her, when you take a walk, let Her walk with you. when you go for work let Her be with you, when you eat and sleep, ask Her to eat and sleep with you. Let Her be with you with each breath and heartbeat of your life.

Let me close with two passages of the Mother which beautifully describe this bond of relationship with the Divine as Friend:

‘I have cried too with the joy of a child, “O supreme and only Confidant, Thou who knowest beforehand all we can say to Thee because Thou art its source! “O supreme and only Friend, Thou who acceptest, Thou who lovest, Thou who understandest us just as we are, because it is Thyself who hast so made us! “O supreme and only Guide, Thou who never gainsayest our highest will because it is Thou Thyself who willest in it! “It would be folly to seek elsewhere than in Thee for one who will listen, understand, love and guide, since always Thou art there ready to our call and never wilt Thou fail us! “Thou hast made me know the supreme, the sublime joy of a perfect confidence, an absolute serenity, a surrender total and without reserve or colouring, free from effort or constraint. Joyous like a child I have smiled and wept at once before Thee, O my Well-Beloved!”
[Prayers and Meditations, CWM 1: 374-375]

‘We don’t like the company of someone who has a contagious disease, and avoid him carefully; generally he is segregated so that it does not spread. But the contagion of vice and bad behaviour, the contagion of depravity, falsehood and what is base, is infinitely more dangerous than the contagion of any disease, and this is what must be very carefully avoided. You must consider as your best friend the one who tells you that he does not wish to participate in any bad or ugly act, the one who gives you courage to resist low temptations; he is a friend. He is the one you must associate with and not someone with whom you have fun and who strengthens your evil propensities. Indeed, you should choose as friends only those who are wiser than yourself, those whose company ennobles you and helps you to master yourself, to progress, to act in a better way and see more clearly. And finally, the best friend one can have —isn’t he the Divine, to whom one can say everything, reveal everything? For there indeed is the source of all compassion, of all power to efface every error when it is not repeated, to open the road to true realisation; it is he who can understand all, heal all, and always help on the path, help you not to fail, not to falter, not to fall, but to walk straight to the goal. He is the true friend, the friend of good and bad days, the one who can understand, can heal, and who is always there when you need him. When you call him sincerely, he is always there to guide and uphold you—and to love you in the true way.’
[Conversation of 13 March 1957, CWM 9: 58-59]

Q: How does one then align one’s will with the divine? And in this context please elaborate on the role of surrender.

ALOK DA: Sri Aurobindo cautions us against tamasic surrender wherein one inertly accepts all kinds of suggestions as if coming from the Divine. Added to this we as human beings have a tendency to automatically justify everything. That is why one of the first things that awakens through yoga is the flame of discernment which is a faculty higher than reason. Its light separates the true from the false, reality from appearances and masks. This is the first light through which we can receive some reflection of the Divine Will.

This light of discernment grows as we learn to stand back from our nature and its movements and quieten our mind by turning the senses within rather in a discursive way outside. When the habit of justifying in some way whatever we do is dropped and we learn to look at things calmly and without preferences, this light begins to spring forth into the mind as a full moon shines upon a placid lake.

The next step is to quieten not only the mind but also the vital movements within us, that is to say the heart and its turbulent emotions, the storms of the vital passions and the restless upsurges of desires. This is gained by a steady practice of equanimity within us of which the practice of niskam karma or action without an eye on the fruits or results (but doing it well nevertheless) done as an offering to the Divine is an important element. When we have thus grown in equanimity at least to a reasonable extent then the Divine Will gets reflected in our mind or the heart as a gentle push in a certain direction.

Finally, as a result of these and a growth of aspiration the psychic being within begins to emerge. It is then that we know with certainty the Divine Will, the sure indication of the thing to be done and the way to do it.

As you can well see that such a process is bound to take some time. Until then one has to make some working rules. These rules are not so much as do’s and don’ts or some rigid mental and moral dogmas but rather states of consciousness and a general understanding of the truths of yogic life. One such rule is the golden rule of this yoga given to the sadhaks by Sri Aurobindo thus: “Live always as if you were under the very eye of the Supreme and of the Divine Mother. Do nothing, try to think and feel nothing that would be unworthy of the Divine Presence.” [Sri Aurobindo, CWSA 32: 172].

Another rule is the rule of balance and moderation that avoids excesses and activities that cause excitement and throws up our nature into a rough ride.

A third rule is to feel out the actions that bring or create peace and harmony and inner joy and the spirit of unity as opposed to those that bring thrills and depressions and confusion and discord and quarrels and clashes.

In any case whatever we do must be done as an offering to the Divine so that eventually His Wil may prevail upon our ignorant choice. This offering of our will to the Divine, that is doing what we may conceive as the best course of action at a given moment gradually starts the tuning process. it is what is known as consecration. There grows along with it the urge to obey the Divine which naturally in present context is not as it used to be before when people could write and get direct replies. Now one has to feel for the response within. It invariably comes but we have to feel for it within as well as build a knowledge base, at least some general things by reading Sri Aurobindo and the Mother. This last one is well within our reach and the one closest to common sense and the basic logic of the yoga practice. Rest can develop alongside on this base.

Q: What is the process of consecration for sadhaks and how to do it daily?
Please let me know in detail.

ALOK DA:
The process of consecration can be practiced as follows:

1. To remember and offer the day and each action to the Mother in the beginning aspiring to bring in more Light and Beauty and harmony and Truth and to open oneself to Her light and Force and Peace.

2. Next to remember and offer after the action is over with gratitude.

3. To offer one’s sleep and even the most mechanical movements and routine activities such as sleep, eating, even washing and bathing.

4. Next to remember Her as often as one can during the activity.

5. Finally to cultivate in oneself a state of Remembrance in the background while the outer action is going on.

At the same time the action should be done as perfectly as one can but surrendering the results entirely in Her hands. The Remembrance itself can be aided with the help of Her Name or simply inwardly repeating Maa.

All this has to be done not as a mechanical act or drudgery or with an eye that is monitoring the results but as an act of joy just as one would remember someone one loves.

Q from a seeker:
I have many questions about the psychic being …
Does the psychic have a personalistic quality? From reading Aurobindo it seems that the true inner mental and inner vital are purified forms of the outer versions of these.
Does the psychic being influence our mind?
Does an aspect of mind continue into next birth with the psychic?
What propels what to undergo on the spiritual journey?

ALOK DA:
The psychic being is that part in us that is turned towards the Divine. Aware of its immortality, it knows itself as a portion of the Divine Consciousness and hence naturally turns towards the Divine Light, Truth, vastness, Peace, bliss, Love of the Divine. It is in a natural affinity with these higher states.

However, it has entered the earthly play of Time and space so as to lift nature out of the state of darkness and inconscience in which creation has plunged. To do this it identifies itself with the lower nature that operates in division, and takes upon itself all its shades and colourings. It forgets itself, so to say and becomes whatever nature wants it to be. It is dragged by the forces of nature in a hundred directions since thus alone can it eventually accomplish its task.

Then going through life and death and rebirth and countless experiences and situations offered to the psychic being in the course of its journey through many lives, it grows from a spark to a flame and a fire that starts feeling a pull towards the yet unseen Sun of Divine Existence. As it feels a pull upwards, our nature, too tied to it, feels this upsurge that manifests in various ways such as being drawn towards things that have a touch of divinity. Those parts in us that feel the pressure and influence of the psychic being, that have developed to an extent, start feeling attracted towards divine things. The mind, filled with information and satisfied with superficial knowings, begins to experience a Godward seeking, at first expressing indirectly in the form of being drawn towards ‘spiritual books and spiritual Masters’.

This changes into a conscious seeking, a conscious aspiration that may take various forms such as the urge to serve the Divine, to be one with HIM etc. Along with this a true faith (as distinct from belief into a religion of our birth), devotion or bhakti, the spirit of surrender and sacrifice to the Divine begins to grow and take hold of our consciousness more and more. Experiences of another dimension, be it the feeling of inner Peace or Light or the awakening of faculties of inspiration, intuition, revelation etc. begin to dawn upon us, thereby preparing our nature, operating still under division, to start operating on the basis of oneness. The grip of the ego loosens and we begin to feel a natural pull inwards towards the seat of the psychic being and the Divine Presence within. With this pull, meditation becomes more and more spontaneous. Guidance begins to come from within us, and peace and felicity become a daily visitant and then a permanent guest. Our nature begins to share the refinement of the psychic being, and the cruder elements of our nature start dropping off spontaneously. Sensitivity towards divine things grows within and along with the divine qualities such as compassion, sincerity, gratitude occupy our house of mud and clay.

Thus slowly a psychic personality is formed with the true mental, true vital and the true physical around it. The true mental etc. are those parts of nature that have been rescued from the law of ignorance and have become an instrument and channel for the soul forces to pour upon the world. When the psychic personality reaches its full development, then it is free while under the conditions of the ignorance. It can choose then to merge into the Infinite, or come back as a Jivanmukta to help others, or else and along with it to participate in a new possibility of growth towards the supramental being. It can also fuse with one of the beings of the higher worlds and thereby become a demi-god.

All this takes time, but an opening to the Grace, a loving surrender, an utter abandon and self-giving to the Grace greatly facilitates the journey and shortens the path. One can further hasten it by treating the recalcitrant elements of nature that refuse to change by convincing them by the higher mind, by putting the soul pressure from within, by stepping back and refusing to give consent to its old ways, by applying steadily the pressure of will. But whatever the effort we apply it is always best to rely upon the Divine Grace and keep offering our efforts to the Grace that is here with all to help our home-coming. The Grace is with all but its most natural door through which IT operates directly without any hindrance is the psychic. Without the psychic opening one can hardly recognise the Grace or turn towards the spiritual path in real earnest.

Hope this touches upon some of the issues in your letter.
Alok Pandey

One of the purposes of rebirth is to experience the infinite on a finite basis. This is generally done by changing the outer circumstances of life. It means being born in different climes and circumstances of life.

Whether the same people will be born together or not depends upon whether they have the same aspiration and the travelers on the same path to the same goal. This is not very common and hence it has been rightly said that ‘children of the same family are rarely born under the same roof.’ In other words we have a physical family which is the family of our birth and it ceases with death of the body. Then there is a family formed by common interests and common thoughts. These may extend beyond one life.

But there is a spiritual family where the bonding and togetherness is due to the common spiritual aspiration. This is the true family and those who come together in this common aspiration generally come or meet together again and again in different lives.

What the Mother describes in the Agenda is not psychic realisation, not even the spiritualisation or the Supramental realisation. All these came much earlier and can be found in the Prayers and Meditations as well as Conversations. What She is describing in the Agenda is the supramental transformation of the cells.
But how did you draw the conclusion that the disciples did not write about the psychic and spiritual realisation? Please read the memoirs of Amrita, Kapali Sastry, Amal Kiran and others.

Yes, there are people even now who have had both psychic as well as spiritual realisations and the cosmic consciousness. Why should they disclose it to you or just about to anybody randomly? If you are sincere seek them out with humility, meet them as a humble seeker and they may share some of the special gems including the psychic realisation if they wish. But you can’t shove a mike on their faces like an inquisitive reporter and force them to disclose their experiences to you simply to satisfy an idle curiosity. These things are not shared like that. The Mother too did not share it publicly. It is after decades that some of Her realisations are freely and publicly available.

By the way how does it matter whether anyone realised anything or not. It is enough that one has the aspiration and has faith in Sri Aurobindo’s words and is thereby willing to undertake the journey even if none before him believed or walked. After all the merit of a spiritual possibility is not decided by a vote as to how many or who all experienced it as if a headmaster is asking students to raise hands and confirm. Your questions shows an approach that will get you nowhere as it smacks of vanity and arrogance rather than humility and seeking.

Yes, faith is a universal truth, it applies to all paths.

There are paths that move along very different lines and mixing them can create confusion. At the same time, certain lines converge, for example Vaishnava bhakti converges in certain ways with Sri Krishna. In general, there are three kinds of paths, very broadly so to say. Those that take us away from the creation as for example the Buddhist approach, those that assure us a dwelling in the Beyond after death such as certain dualist schools, and those that strive to make earth better such as the idea of Rama Rajya, Sri Krishna of the Gita and Sri Aurobindo.

There are common elements in them, and a seeker who knows the goal can pick up helpful elements from different systems such as mind control from the Buddhist system and Raja Yoga. So, a very strict water tight compartment does not exist. Often it can colour bhakti with the ego by thinking my guru is best or the only one and thereby stop progressing. Because it is not so much the human form of the guru but the Divine Presence in him.

One’s seeking may take one beyond the ‘physical guru’ which is not a mixing of faith but a change of the path or a heightening and widening of faith. What is however true is that the surrender has to be to one Guru whom one trusts or has faith in that he will take you to the goal. Assuming of course that the goal is clear because one is conscious of the core aspiration for true spiritual journey begins with that.

Marriage is not necessarily anti-spiritual but generally absorbs a lot of time and energy leaving a little for higher pursuits especially if the two people are not in sync with each other’s aspiration. As to sex, it is a normal and natural instinct which is supposed to serve the purpose of propagation of the species. However, the mind adds to it much perversity to enhance pleasure. In itself it is not a problem if one is seeking pleasure but as far as the spiritual life is concerned it keeps us tied to the gross and crude animal instincts and the excitement and unconsciousness that follows often opens doors to many negative forces that are inimical to a higher life. It keeps the energy tied to lower levels leaving little that could be available for higher ascension.

A progressive shift from the gross and crude to the subtle and the refined ways of life can be done through marriage or without it if one has the sincerity of aspiration. If this critical sincerity and aspiration is missing, merely living single and alone is not enough.

For most people it is perhaps better to go through the experience of human love and togetherness as taken rightly this itself can be a preparation for the spiritual life than staying away out of taboo or fear and guilt and incomprehension. No general rule can be therefore made for these things and each one must feel for oneself.