Ultimately it is a question of destiny. But spiritual growth does not as much depend upon outer circumstances as much as on the inner attitudes we have towards them.
We should be careful not to define Truth into our limited mental formulas of life. The Truth is infinite and beyond any definition. It is to be lived and if we aspire for It then it begins to reveal Itself.
The best is to remain quiet with trust and confidence in the Grace and the supreme Wisdom that governs the world working itself through the dark and thick resistances of humanity.
There are three sides to the workings of the supramental force. The first is needed clearing of the old ways of life that resist and obstinately refuse the change.
If you are already blessed to have such a feeling within you, it is a sign that She is already your friend, and all that is needed is to build the bond from your side, since friendship, unlike love, is always a two-way process.