Q: I have suddenly taken a fall, deep into tamas, and now find myself far from the Mothers touch, everything is lost. I want everything back – please explain why this happened and what to do?
ALOK DA: The first thing that one has to focus upon in yoga is to cultivate the right attitude, practice equanimity and peace, nurture faith, grow in aspiration, become more and more sincere and surrender the fruit of efforts to the Divine Mother.
Asking the Mother for Energy is not quite the right approach as the human system will not be able to bear IT unless there is a reasonable initial purification through the psychic touch which brings devotion and the spirit of service.
Instead of forcibly stopping the sexual act while keeping it alive in the mind, one should learn to practice sanyama, stay busy and play games or do lot of exercises. It is not a simple thing to conquer sex.
One should first grow into the positive aspects of Yoga before tackling sex in real earnest. In any case one should strictly throw away guilt etc. associated with the sexual act. It opens doors to depression and saps away lot of energy.
So the only thing to do after a fall is to get up and walk again with faith in the Grace instead of lamenting and blaming oneself. Great patience and endurance are required for Yoga. It cannot be done in a jiffy.
